LOVE IS NOT A FANTASY OF PERFECTION
A lovely little gem from John Gray’s book “Why Mars and Venus Collide”
“Love is not a fantasy of perfection in which our every need is met, but sharing a life together, striving to meet each other’s needs as best we can. Forgiving our partners for their mistakes and accepting their limitations can be just as fulfilling as appreciating their many gifts and successes”
I hear the words spoken by so many, so often, who will only be happy when everything is perfect ………. when he or she does exactly what is expected, when there is passion, when there is peace, when there is more money, more time to enjoy what life has to offer …
I know that unless we embrace what is happening right now, loving what today has to offer, graciously accepting what lesson today is teaching us, looking for the way to make it work, and the hidden benefit to the often outwardly negative situation, then we are really not living life to our full potential.
We will miss the opportunity to create happiness for ourselves and others. We may even resort to playing the blame game, where everyone ends up being a loser.
In order to sustain a relationship, it is vital to EMBRACE the differences and celebrate the similarities. If we cannot find a way to embrace the difference and to achieve balance (yes, easier said than done), then sustaining a relationship is difficult. Over time the perceived differences can erode intimacy and couples withdraw, live together superficially, or in time they split up.
In my relationships I have learnt that my life does not have to be perfect in order for me to support and connect with those I love and coach.
It’s all about the connection we share with our loved ones, or the lack of it that really matters in the end.
If you are feeling that your relationship is devoid of the depth of connection your heart is longing for, email me. The first 5 readers will receive a free 20 minute phone consultation, leaving you with some great information on how to facilitate change.
Wishing you success in love